Dating in the Third millennium
The millennial dating scene is difficult to decipher. In the modern day, it can be hard to determine how deep you are in your relationship or even whether you are in a relationship at all. No wonder social media sites have come up with “complicated” as one of the options to describe your relationship. So how do you know whether you are dating, seeing someone, going out with someone, hanging out, or hooking up and is there a difference?
Internet dating has blurred the lines so much that it is difficult to know what to expect in terms of relationship progression. As well, social media platforms add additional pressure to our relationships. We find we no longer know what we should or shouldn’t be doing. You enjoyed the right swipe yes but is this the right time to add him or her to your Facebook profile? Is it too soon to post an Insta together?
Every relationship is different, but here are some telltale signs that your relationship has moved up the ladder from hooking up to dating. Here are but a few
You’re seeing a lot of each other.
By a lot, we mean time-wise – not body-wise. If you’re meeting at least once a week, this is a great sign that you two value your time together. Over the week you message each other about your days, what’s going on, and send casual snaps and texts throughout the week. It means your you’re becoming a part of their day-to-day life and you care. If you can’t go a day without messaging each other or feel weird not hearing from them for a couple of hours, it’s definitely a thing.
You’ve met their friends
If that person you have been seeing has invited you to a hangout with his or her friends, then you are in. Your guy/gal wants to show you off – and might be looking at their friends for a stamp of approval. Again if your guy/gal has honoured you invitation to a hangout with your friends then they think the relationship is worth moving to the next level
You are no longer very cautious where meet
If you are able to date on a budget and still completely fulfilled and happy with yourself, then again your relationship has moved up the scale. Meeting only at the end of the month when pockets are loaded means you could be still stuck at the impressive stage. Going on budget dates means you are ready to be more honest with each other
You talk about future plans
When you catch yourself casually making joint plans, you know like it is obvious your friend will agree, then you are dating. “We should do that,” or “I need to take you there,” are great things to hear your bae say.
Your weekly date is on primetime
If you two are seeing each other Friday, Saturday or Sunday – oh baby. You’ve made it. This is primetime for going out that they could easily reserve for others. But they’re not out with them – they’re out with you!
You’re doing fun things together (clothed)
Yes, sexual chemistry with a partner is crucial to a healthy relationship -but so are companionship, shared interests and personality traits. If you are out and about trying new things and making fun memories – outside the sheets – there’s a good chance they want to do more than hook up with you.
You feel like you should delete your dating apps
Because you’re in a good place and that’s a great feeling. If you glance at your S.O’s phone and there isn’t a campfire or a buzzing bee, maybe you’re on the same page. However, if your friends catch their profiles while swiping, it might not be as serious as you think. This leads us to the last point –
You’ve had ‘the talk’
If you find yourself catching some questionable feelings, it might be time to discuss what you’re doing. Let’s face it, no one wants to be in a relationship where they’re constantly asking themselves questions or feeling less than important. Yeah, it might be a little awkward but it’s better than being in the dark. Worse case, they’re just into something casual – at which point you can decide if you want to kick it label-less, or just kick’em to the curb.